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But, what about lying? There are two kinds of lying in relationships and one or both could be negatively affecting yours.

How do you deal with lies in a relationship? We devote a good bit of time to this question of dealing with lies and honesty in our new "Relationship Trust Turnaround" guidebook and audio program we've been telling you about so we'll just give you the short version here.

Whether the lie is one you are telling yourself or you feel you....

After all if you're like a lot of people, you're probably wondering.

If you are open and honest with each other with the intention of connecting and healing what's happened between you instead of blaming and judging, you'll be amazed by how big of a difference this can make as you work toward rebuilding trust.

Lying is a coping mechanism that a person has developed that seemed to work in the past so he or she keeps doing it.

It sure does get pretty confusing when this happens.

As we see it, there are two kinds of lying: lying to yourself and lying to your partner You lie to yourself because you want to avoid looking at the truth of the situation and how potentially painful it will be.

Lying becomes a habit and a way of manipulating to get what the person wants- whether it's to keep the peace, to temporarily make the other person happy or simply a game to try to get away with something.

People often tell lies because they don't believe that they can be who they really are or get what they want unless they tell you what they think you want to hear.

This simply isn't true.

You fear what might or could happen if you were really honest with yourself.

You lie to your partner or your partner lies to you because there is a fear that if the other person really knew the complete truth, it would cause even bigger problems than you're going through right now.

The interesting thing (and something you may not want to hear) is that both partners can be doing both kinds of lying in the relationship.